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Aimee Williams's avatar

Dear Jack,

With gentleness and humility, as a God fearing woman with no children, may I offer a comment?

(I greatly appreciate your thoughts, and you hit the nail right on the head with the church being more of a business model than a family, wow! Me and a friend used to laugh over how the congregation seemed like a corporation and the preacher its president! Lol)

Anyhow, I do not disagree with you that marriage and children are a beautiful thing and the foundation of God's plan for how mankind should continue.

I readily accept that some people will think that I am not being a good Christian woman because I have never been married and don't have a husband. And therefore no children. Relationships have always been a struggle for me and I've never met anyone that I thought would be a good husband for me.

I've also never had the desire to be a mother. Most women do, but some women don't. I realize that people will also judge me for that because they believe that all women should be mothers.

So what do I do? I live a quiet and simple life, devoted to the Lord. Serving him how I can, in spite of my fibromyalgia and chronic fatigue. I encourage my nephew and nieces in the Lord as much as I can . I look out for others who also might be considered outcasts by the church, especially other women who are single or divorced or come to assembly by themselves, who know they don't fit in and won't be readily welcomed because they don't fit the "ideal picture" of a woman, i.e. they don't have a husband and children under the age of 18.

Are these women precious to the Lord? I believe they are. Am I still precious to the Lord? I believe I am.

I think that Paul defends the unmarried in 1st Corinthians 7. I also believe that Jesus understood people situations that not everyone would be able to have children, as he defends eunuchs and the childless In Matthew 19:12

So I understand your viewpoint on marriage and children, I do, but please also understand that every person has their own complications and challenges and unique gifts in life and having a spouse and children is not the only way to be a servant. If it was, then I would truly be an outcast in the family of God. But I know that Jesus loves me and cares about me, I matter. no matter what my marital status is or reproductive status is.

All i humbly ask is for your mercy, on me and all those like me, trying to serve the Lord even though we don't fit the ideal standard.

May God bless you and have a wonderful day! Keep up the good writing, I very much enjoy your thoughts!

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Geoffrey Stroud's avatar

It is always a leadership issue. The Pastor works for the Elders. If the Elders have no discernment, the Pastor pinballs from ear tickling topics to keep bums on seats. The Elders must be wise old indwelt slaves to Christ.

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