Totally agree with you. There is a difference with a normally well mannered, well raised child being noisy. Their attention needs to be refocused. There is a BIG difference with a child being allowed to run around, scream and yell and be rude to others. It all comes down to parenting. BOTH parents doing their job. Example: used to lead the music at local Episcopal Church. One family had three daughters. The youngest was allowed to scream out and disrupt everything. Went in for almost the entire service. Not once did the parents go out of the sanctuary with her to not disturb the others. It was so annoying and difficult to focus with a 6 year old screaming out.
I especially like this statement: "But it was inconsiderate of the parents to allow such behavior to go on." I do believe that many parents are trying to do the "gentle parenting" and allowing such things to go on. There are times when you have to do more than "gentle parenting."
Pathetic thing is this parenting style now given the nice nice label of “gentle parenting” has been around since “It Takes a Village” came out and the divorce rates within the Christian church began to skyrocket.
I agree with your criticism of the "gentle parenting" style. However, I am not sure what your reasons are for blaming Hillary Clinton's book for it. I've read it and there's a lot about it I don't like - "No, Hillary. It takes a family" - but its point appeared to me to be that the government should take care of children rather than their parents. It did not seem to be a parenting manual when I read it. Could you please cite places in the book that you believe started the "gentle parenting" trend?
Number 1… As one of those young mothers who raised six children on the third row from the front of the church building… Let me share some information that stuck with me. Many years ago, we were a part of a very small congregation where I asked one of the elderly elder’s wives what she thought about this very situation. She said, “Of course we want children in church, but once your children are keeping other people from worshiping, they need to be taken out and ‘corrected.’ Children should not be disturbing other peoples worship.” I sincerely took this to heart…
Number 2… This past Sunday, during the Lord’s Supper, about 80% of what was said I could NOT hear! There were several families whose children were screaming and banging and causing a huge ruckus! I was praying so hard for these young families to learn how to “parent” their children… There is NO parenting going on! 😔 It was so frustrating! At this point, I was almost in tears… Several of the families have special-needs children…. Guess what…? I have one of those also… People act like these children are animals, and cannot learn to act right and have self-control. Parents, you are doing your children a HUGE disservice! They are smarter than you think… They can learn… Please don’t treat them like an animal. They can learn to sit quietly for a short period of time. At this point it reminds me of the movie, The Miracle Worker. The 1962 version that’s in black-and-white. The one with Anne Bancroft and Patty Duke…
I would encourage all young parents to watch this movie… The 1962 version!
Nothing new under the sun… This has been happening for a long time. I pray that I have the right attitude and can give these young parents grace… But I also pray for these young parents, to grow up their children in the love and admonition of the Lord… 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽✝️✝️✝️
Totally agree with you. There is a difference with a normally well mannered, well raised child being noisy. Their attention needs to be refocused. There is a BIG difference with a child being allowed to run around, scream and yell and be rude to others. It all comes down to parenting. BOTH parents doing their job. Example: used to lead the music at local Episcopal Church. One family had three daughters. The youngest was allowed to scream out and disrupt everything. Went in for almost the entire service. Not once did the parents go out of the sanctuary with her to not disturb the others. It was so annoying and difficult to focus with a 6 year old screaming out.
I especially like this statement: "But it was inconsiderate of the parents to allow such behavior to go on." I do believe that many parents are trying to do the "gentle parenting" and allowing such things to go on. There are times when you have to do more than "gentle parenting."
Pathetic thing is this parenting style now given the nice nice label of “gentle parenting” has been around since “It Takes a Village” came out and the divorce rates within the Christian church began to skyrocket.
I agree with your criticism of the "gentle parenting" style. However, I am not sure what your reasons are for blaming Hillary Clinton's book for it. I've read it and there's a lot about it I don't like - "No, Hillary. It takes a family" - but its point appeared to me to be that the government should take care of children rather than their parents. It did not seem to be a parenting manual when I read it. Could you please cite places in the book that you believe started the "gentle parenting" trend?
Two thoughts…
Number 1… As one of those young mothers who raised six children on the third row from the front of the church building… Let me share some information that stuck with me. Many years ago, we were a part of a very small congregation where I asked one of the elderly elder’s wives what she thought about this very situation. She said, “Of course we want children in church, but once your children are keeping other people from worshiping, they need to be taken out and ‘corrected.’ Children should not be disturbing other peoples worship.” I sincerely took this to heart…
Number 2… This past Sunday, during the Lord’s Supper, about 80% of what was said I could NOT hear! There were several families whose children were screaming and banging and causing a huge ruckus! I was praying so hard for these young families to learn how to “parent” their children… There is NO parenting going on! 😔 It was so frustrating! At this point, I was almost in tears… Several of the families have special-needs children…. Guess what…? I have one of those also… People act like these children are animals, and cannot learn to act right and have self-control. Parents, you are doing your children a HUGE disservice! They are smarter than you think… They can learn… Please don’t treat them like an animal. They can learn to sit quietly for a short period of time. At this point it reminds me of the movie, The Miracle Worker. The 1962 version that’s in black-and-white. The one with Anne Bancroft and Patty Duke…
I would encourage all young parents to watch this movie… The 1962 version!
Nothing new under the sun… This has been happening for a long time. I pray that I have the right attitude and can give these young parents grace… But I also pray for these young parents, to grow up their children in the love and admonition of the Lord… 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽✝️✝️✝️