I agree wholeheartedly with this. The burden of proof is also for members of the Lord's church to explain why many of us are celebrating holidays from Catholicism, pagan and denominational traditions (Christmas, Halloween, Easter) and rebranded some of them (Fall Festival, etc) so that we can participate with the world and not experience FOMO. Sacrifice is not easy but is part of true Christianity. Stay peculiar!
My concern is more with following the herd with regard to dress and that's not just for prom. Christian parents are letting their daughters (and sons) dictate what they should be allowed to wear. Pictures from prom this year showed so many super short skirts and plunging necklines. Same thing with swim attire. There is certainly nothing wrong with modesty, it's Biblical, but apparently that topic is now out of style. I grew up in the 70s when mimiskirts arrived, but my parents said "No". We lived on the coast, yet I didn't have a swimsuit. And, I knew that prom, or any other dance, was out of the question. Letting our daughters dress in inappropriate clothing is letting them down. Not teaching them to honor God by dressing modestly is parent failure. I'm not talking about wearing "Little House on the Prairie" clothes, just covering up body parts that should not be seen in public.
I hate going into another category other than prom, but what about swim wear? So we go get our swim suit that covers us from our neck to our knees, but we are swimming in a pool or ocean with people who are essentially naked? Is that a proper environment for a Christian? Will your family member not be tempted to sin by seeing all of the nearly naked bodies around them? The same goes for prom. Most guys are dressed modestly, but the girls are certainly not. As a Christian, why should we want to put ourselves in that environment? I am a lady, and when I see another female with her breasts exposed, I cannot help but stare - not from lust but from shock! It is the same reason I do not go where alcohol is served. I am a Christian, and I don't want anyone thinking that I do such things. We are to "abstain from all appearance of evil."
Our son was "the only one in the whole school not going to prom" a few years ago (which was "fake news", of course), but we stuck with our decision. And contrary to popular opinion, he did not die because of not going.
I like how Voddie Bauchaum put it, “As we would not allow a teenage boy to take our Lamborghini out for an unsupervised spin, so we must not allow them such access to a far more precious commodity—our daughters".
I had to let them go to school and work when the time came, I understand what you are saying and I am a big fan of yours but I just think that you have to trust them and the teaching that they have received , thank you for all you do!
If you have raised your children with the correct information and details about sex and what God expects from all of us not just this one subject why are you sheltering them , you have to trust them and have faith in them
Have faith that they will not be tempted? Have faith that they will keep their thoughts pure if they are dancing very closely with the other sex? If they are old enough to go to the prom, then they are still living in your house and you have the final say. Take time to let them know why you are not allowing them to go. You, obviously, are buying their clothing to go, so essentially you are allowing them to be in a bad environment. Would you allow them to go to a party where you are certain some will be drinking? Same thing.
I think most American Christians will push back against this. But I don't think most American Chris bother to think it through.
It's the same reason so many Christians lie to their children about things like Santa Claus. They'll say it's just harmless fun or it's no big deal.
I agree wholeheartedly with this. The burden of proof is also for members of the Lord's church to explain why many of us are celebrating holidays from Catholicism, pagan and denominational traditions (Christmas, Halloween, Easter) and rebranded some of them (Fall Festival, etc) so that we can participate with the world and not experience FOMO. Sacrifice is not easy but is part of true Christianity. Stay peculiar!
My concern is more with following the herd with regard to dress and that's not just for prom. Christian parents are letting their daughters (and sons) dictate what they should be allowed to wear. Pictures from prom this year showed so many super short skirts and plunging necklines. Same thing with swim attire. There is certainly nothing wrong with modesty, it's Biblical, but apparently that topic is now out of style. I grew up in the 70s when mimiskirts arrived, but my parents said "No". We lived on the coast, yet I didn't have a swimsuit. And, I knew that prom, or any other dance, was out of the question. Letting our daughters dress in inappropriate clothing is letting them down. Not teaching them to honor God by dressing modestly is parent failure. I'm not talking about wearing "Little House on the Prairie" clothes, just covering up body parts that should not be seen in public.
I hate going into another category other than prom, but what about swim wear? So we go get our swim suit that covers us from our neck to our knees, but we are swimming in a pool or ocean with people who are essentially naked? Is that a proper environment for a Christian? Will your family member not be tempted to sin by seeing all of the nearly naked bodies around them? The same goes for prom. Most guys are dressed modestly, but the girls are certainly not. As a Christian, why should we want to put ourselves in that environment? I am a lady, and when I see another female with her breasts exposed, I cannot help but stare - not from lust but from shock! It is the same reason I do not go where alcohol is served. I am a Christian, and I don't want anyone thinking that I do such things. We are to "abstain from all appearance of evil."
Our son was "the only one in the whole school not going to prom" a few years ago (which was "fake news", of course), but we stuck with our decision. And contrary to popular opinion, he did not die because of not going.
I like how Voddie Bauchaum put it, “As we would not allow a teenage boy to take our Lamborghini out for an unsupervised spin, so we must not allow them such access to a far more precious commodity—our daughters".
I have observed that more of our sons need protection from predatory church girls than girls need from our sons.
I had to let them go to school and work when the time came, I understand what you are saying and I am a big fan of yours but I just think that you have to trust them and the teaching that they have received , thank you for all you do!
When I was in school, there was no question. Christian kids did not go. Has the event gotten better.
If you have raised your children with the correct information and details about sex and what God expects from all of us not just this one subject why are you sheltering them , you have to trust them and have faith in them
Trust your children, sure. Throwing them into a den of iniquity because you trust them? No.
Have faith that they will not be tempted? Have faith that they will keep their thoughts pure if they are dancing very closely with the other sex? If they are old enough to go to the prom, then they are still living in your house and you have the final say. Take time to let them know why you are not allowing them to go. You, obviously, are buying their clothing to go, so essentially you are allowing them to be in a bad environment. Would you allow them to go to a party where you are certain some will be drinking? Same thing.