It's so wild that I came across your Substack and THIS post! That Dave Ramsey episode was the one that kept me from listening to his podcast ever again. I was shocked by the absolute garbage advice they gave to her! I wanted so badly to find this girl and say, "Ignore everything they just said to you!!!" They have been married for 1 year and they're so young! They are likely BOTH the problem. The fact that she called in to “throw her husband under the bus”, is a good indication. She is probably not doing her best in her work, because I wasn't when I was young and newly married. I was idol and lazy, but Satan kept telling me I was doing the most when I did anything at all, and I had the babies, that scored me 1 million points against my husband, right? My husband was truly working his butt off at work, and he comes home to half-way done work, bad attitude from his wife, every day. It took 10 years (5 years ago) to finally invite God into our marriage when things began to finally change. Then a friend challenged me to "submit to my husband". I laughed at her and said I'd give this whole submission experiment a week. That was the most peaceful week of our entire marriage at that point by far, so I never stopped. I read books on how to better submit and how to be more disciplined as a Christian, and it has been such a burden lifted for me, my husband began to be an amazing leader once I got out of his way. He submitted his life to Christ about 2 years ago, and he is a changed man, husband, father. Just incredible! When I stay in my role and live in my natural design, I am submitting to God. When I choose to serve my husband, even when he’s tripped up or I'm mad, I'm doing it for God, and my husband feels His mercy through my work. We used to fight weekly, and now we barely ever argue. We have become each other’s best friend and the Agape love has pourover between us. Our family is so full of light and joy now. I so wish every Christian woman would try the “submission experiment” and I so wish I could call up that young woman and give her some sound advice. Hopefully someone has. I have prayed for her and her husband ever since I heard that podcast. I pray she and her husband wake up sooner than we did and are the road to a God-first marriage as well. Thank you for your sound take, and I look forward to following more of your writings and podcast!
I really appreciate your podcasts and your writing on this — it’s such an important topic. One thing I always come back to is that Paul was writing directly to Christians, and that means each of us carries our own individual responsibility before God. A husband won’t stand before God and answer for his wife’s choices, and she won’t answer for his. We’ve each been given clear instruction on how to live out our roles, and we need to take that seriously and actually do it.
And look — you made a great point — that’s not always easy. Sometimes what we’re asked to do feels unfair or one-sided. But even when a husband is overbearing, a wife still has her own obligation before God to fulfill. I know a lot of people will hear that and call it patriarchal, and that’s fine — it’s still scripture. I’ve told many young couples on their wedding day, when the “obey” clause comes up, that the very word “obey” implies doing something you wouldn’t naturally choose to do. Submission is the same idea — it’s not doing what feels comfortable or what you’d pick on your own. That’s kind of the whole point.
My prayer is that both husbands and wives step up and own their personal responsibility. Husbands, love your wives as yourselves — that’s a high bar. Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. Both matter. Both are the call.
Dave Ramsey "stole" Larry Burkett's debt envelope/snowball idea. His idea of "buy a growth fund and just hold it" is horrible investment advice since it doesn't take into account so many personal variables. His "Smart Investor" financial advisors paid THOUSANDS in fees to be able to just get leads from his website. Not is all as it appears on the surface.
I really appreciate your podcasts and your writing on this — it’s such an important topic. One thing I always come back to is that Paul was writing directly to Christians, and that means each of us carries our own individual responsibility before God. A husband won’t stand before God and answer for his wife’s choices, and she won’t answer for his. We’ve each been given clear instruction on how to live out our roles, and we need to take that seriously and actually do it.
And look — you made a great point — that’s not always easy. Sometimes what we’re asked to do feels unfair or one-sided. But even when a husband is overbearing, a wife still has her own obligation before God to fulfill. I know a lot of people will hear that and call it patriarchal, and that’s fine — it’s still scripture. I’ve told many young couples on their wedding day, when the “obey” clause comes up, that the very word “obey” implies doing something you wouldn’t naturally choose to do. Submission is the same idea — it’s not doing what feels comfortable or what you’d pick on your own. That’s kind of the whole point.
My prayer is that both husbands and wives step up and own their personal responsibility. Husbands, love your wives as yourselves — that’s a high bar. Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. Both matter. Both are the call.
This is off topic, but you were very effective in your debate with Jeremiah Nortier. Thank you for your work!
Thank you!
It's so wild that I came across your Substack and THIS post! That Dave Ramsey episode was the one that kept me from listening to his podcast ever again. I was shocked by the absolute garbage advice they gave to her! I wanted so badly to find this girl and say, "Ignore everything they just said to you!!!" They have been married for 1 year and they're so young! They are likely BOTH the problem. The fact that she called in to “throw her husband under the bus”, is a good indication. She is probably not doing her best in her work, because I wasn't when I was young and newly married. I was idol and lazy, but Satan kept telling me I was doing the most when I did anything at all, and I had the babies, that scored me 1 million points against my husband, right? My husband was truly working his butt off at work, and he comes home to half-way done work, bad attitude from his wife, every day. It took 10 years (5 years ago) to finally invite God into our marriage when things began to finally change. Then a friend challenged me to "submit to my husband". I laughed at her and said I'd give this whole submission experiment a week. That was the most peaceful week of our entire marriage at that point by far, so I never stopped. I read books on how to better submit and how to be more disciplined as a Christian, and it has been such a burden lifted for me, my husband began to be an amazing leader once I got out of his way. He submitted his life to Christ about 2 years ago, and he is a changed man, husband, father. Just incredible! When I stay in my role and live in my natural design, I am submitting to God. When I choose to serve my husband, even when he’s tripped up or I'm mad, I'm doing it for God, and my husband feels His mercy through my work. We used to fight weekly, and now we barely ever argue. We have become each other’s best friend and the Agape love has pourover between us. Our family is so full of light and joy now. I so wish every Christian woman would try the “submission experiment” and I so wish I could call up that young woman and give her some sound advice. Hopefully someone has. I have prayed for her and her husband ever since I heard that podcast. I pray she and her husband wake up sooner than we did and are the road to a God-first marriage as well. Thank you for your sound take, and I look forward to following more of your writings and podcast!
What a great testimony! Praise God, and credit to the friend who gave the challenge.
I wish more people could see how much falls into place when we do things God’s way. It changes everything.
I really appreciate your podcasts and your writing on this — it’s such an important topic. One thing I always come back to is that Paul was writing directly to Christians, and that means each of us carries our own individual responsibility before God. A husband won’t stand before God and answer for his wife’s choices, and she won’t answer for his. We’ve each been given clear instruction on how to live out our roles, and we need to take that seriously and actually do it.
And look — you made a great point — that’s not always easy. Sometimes what we’re asked to do feels unfair or one-sided. But even when a husband is overbearing, a wife still has her own obligation before God to fulfill. I know a lot of people will hear that and call it patriarchal, and that’s fine — it’s still scripture. I’ve told many young couples on their wedding day, when the “obey” clause comes up, that the very word “obey” implies doing something you wouldn’t naturally choose to do. Submission is the same idea — it’s not doing what feels comfortable or what you’d pick on your own. That’s kind of the whole point.
My prayer is that both husbands and wives step up and own their personal responsibility. Husbands, love your wives as yourselves — that’s a high bar. Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. Both matter. Both are the call.
Dave Ramsey "stole" Larry Burkett's debt envelope/snowball idea. His idea of "buy a growth fund and just hold it" is horrible investment advice since it doesn't take into account so many personal variables. His "Smart Investor" financial advisors paid THOUSANDS in fees to be able to just get leads from his website. Not is all as it appears on the surface.
Interesting. I haven't heard the name Larry Burkett in a long time.
Grew up outside Atlanta. Learned of him long ago. Ramsey took ideas from him and made them seem like his own.
I really appreciate your podcasts and your writing on this — it’s such an important topic. One thing I always come back to is that Paul was writing directly to Christians, and that means each of us carries our own individual responsibility before God. A husband won’t stand before God and answer for his wife’s choices, and she won’t answer for his. We’ve each been given clear instruction on how to live out our roles, and we need to take that seriously and actually do it.
And look — you made a great point — that’s not always easy. Sometimes what we’re asked to do feels unfair or one-sided. But even when a husband is overbearing, a wife still has her own obligation before God to fulfill. I know a lot of people will hear that and call it patriarchal, and that’s fine — it’s still scripture. I’ve told many young couples on their wedding day, when the “obey” clause comes up, that the very word “obey” implies doing something you wouldn’t naturally choose to do. Submission is the same idea — it’s not doing what feels comfortable or what you’d pick on your own. That’s kind of the whole point.
My prayer is that both husbands and wives step up and own their personal responsibility. Husbands, love your wives as yourselves — that’s a high bar. Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. Both matter. Both are the call.